Please Choose



I know this for a fact: the secret to happiness is twofold .
First, you choose to be happy. And you keep choosing it, over and over.
Second, you make time to practice being grateful every day.

“Well, if I had something to be happy about, I would.  If I had something to be grateful for, I would. ”
Aha, the age-old conundrum: Which came first, the chicken or the egg?
Here’s the deal, you can always find something to be happy about and grateful for.  Then you will be both happy and grateful.

“Not having the best situation, but seeing the best in your situation is the key to happiness.”
 – Marie Forleo

For example, let’s take Austin’s notorious traffic. You can be stuck in it and get angry and frustrated. You can curse all you want, honk your horn, even gnash your teeth. But, does that make you happy?
Or….you can take responsibility, acknowledge that traffic is a part of life here, and plan for it. Spend your time in transit listening to a book, some beautiful music, or a TED Talk. Make the choice to be happy.

Now for part two: spend a few minutes each evening reviewing your day and find three things you are grateful for.

My sweetheart and I used to do this aloud before we went to sleep at night. Now I spend time before bed writing about everything I am grateful for. And here’s the kicker – since what we focus our attention on is what we get more of in our life…this isn’t being altruistic at all. I’m being rather selfish, actually. I want more good things!

Let’s bring this plane in for a landing – if you choose to be happy, and focus on what you are grateful for, you will become happy and have even more to be grateful for. Simple, no?

Do this consistently (I learned last night that 40 days is the magical number) and your life will change for the better.
I guarantee it, or your money back!

“Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more.”
– Melody Beattie

I’m counting on more,
XO Donna


kidmenot  In her foreword to KID ME NOT, Elizabeth Gilbert (author of Eat, Pray, Love) says:   “I have come to believe there are three sorts of women, when it comes to questions of maternity. There are women who are born to be mothers, women who are born to be aunties, and women who should not be allowed within ten feet of a child. Those of us who are natural-born aunties….love children, we enjoy children, but we know in our deepest marrow that we are not supposed to have children of our own. Now, listen – if you put a baby in front of me, rest assured: that baby is gonna get cuddled, spoiled and adored. But even as I’m loving on that beautiful infant, I know in my heart: This is not my destiny. It never was.”

“In the 1960’s women saw the advent of the birth control pill, making theirs the first generation to have reliable options when considering whether or not to become mothers.”

The editor of KID ME NOT, Aralyn Hughes, has gathered an intriguing collection of essays, hoping “our stories will sow seeds of respect between women who choose paths exclusive of children and those who have chosen the daunting task of being mothers.”

All of these women – Baby Boomers –  came of age during this tumultuous decade, and explain how that influenced their decision to remain child-free.  These are well-written,  insightful accounts of the way these women shaped their own lives; not giving in to pressure, and staying true to their deepest knowing.

As the population on the planet continues to grow and women fight for their freedom to have choices,  these timely stories are important both as a reflection on how we got here, and as a roadmap laying out options for today’s young women to consider when it comes to the issue of having children.

The fifteen stories in Kid Me Not are more widely varied than I ever expected, which kept me turning pages, and there are even little posters telling you what was going on every year;  e.g. in 1963 Beatlemania swept the UK. There was a new Polio vaccine dispensed on a lump of sugar. And Johnny Depp was born. 

 With black-and-white photo-collages of the authors  in the 60’s opening every story, and a current photo and “where they are now” as a bookend, it’s a fun read!  I enjoyed the stories from the women I don’t know, as well as those of my friends, and finished the whole book during my lunch break, cheering each writer on!

KID ME NOT is available at Amazon. Feel free to buy one for yourself, and for each the “nieces” in your life!   (Disclaimer: I am not receiving anything, except love,  for promoting this book. ) 

XO Donna